My government professor likes to ramble and go off on tangents, usually inappropriate ones. I spend most of each class gritting my teeth. Anyway, he was talking about how Americans feel about being taxed. He said Americans dislike taxes so much, that if they were offered a choice between paying taxes and having herpes, that it would be this horrible conflict and it would take them a long time to decide. I was like, WTF? It seems to me that this attitude just reinforces the stigma. I have had herpes since I was 18. I HATE when people around me make comments like this. I want to speak out against them, to say that it isn't this horrible thing that everybody thinks it is. But I don't feel brave enough to come out to people I don't know, especially when they say things that demonstrate their feelings of contempt and disgust. I have also had a coworker yell at me for allowing someone to use the employee restroom because "OMG what if they had HERPES!!!!11!!!1" Then she grabbed a can of industrial disinfectant and cleaned the toilet. I had just gotten over my most recent outbreak so I was still dealing with my own internal feelings. I guess I am frustrated by people's lack of education. cross-posted
i'm so glad you posted this... i was just diagnosed after having sex only once, and i've been having a very hard time... i look forward to reading more of what you have to say. i also am perpetually shocked at the lack of general knowledge concerning herpes... =( but the social stigma really does get to me... as well as the guilt/shame/questionable responsibilities that come along with it... Merry Christmas ShadowJae.
I'm glad to hear you say it isn't all that horrible of a thing. I don't have it myself, but am considering marrying a man who does have it, so I kind of suspect it's only a matter of time before it transmits to me.